A Mother’s Love


Introduction


Many people view the work of a mother as a great opportunity. For some, being a mother is the start of their dream of becoming a woman. People identified the work of a mother as a never-ending responsibility, no compensation yet full of rewards, no overtime but willing to stay late at night, no qualifications required just a simple touch of warm touch. The love of a mother is definitely unique and full of mysteries. Children and their husbands often wonder about the strength of the mothers to take care the entire family. This is because a woman understands that her love is enough to keep her family.


A Mother


There is only one day that people in the whole world celebrate the existence of their mothers, and that is the mother’s day. During that day, as a counterpart of the father’s day that usually happens for the next month, people are trying to give something in pleasure of their mothers. From the simple cards, flowers, to sumptuous dinner or luxurious gift, no one can ever measure a mother’s love. Actually, there is no specific measurement that can be used to measure the love of our mothers.


For children, their mother is their pillow when they are afraid sleeping in their own bed or their blanket when they are sick. For teenagers, the mother is their greatest advisor. For the husbands and fathers, their wives are their shelter when everything went wrong during their tiring day. In this ides, our mother is not just a single person. The mother that we have known for all of our lives plays different roles for almost everyday. Her role changes because of the things we need for her. Her care, love, trust, and guidance are the essential ingredients to build our own personality.


The Mother and Daughter Relationship


Most of the studies about the relationship of the mother on her children are focus on her relationship to her daughter/s. Maybe because both of them have same hormones or gender that is why there is an attraction happening between them. Usually, during the developmental stage of the daughter, the mother is always the person that is standing beside her to support her daughter. Females are identified as emotionally-centered person and no one understand their ways and how they think unless there another woman that will help or support her. The mother and daughter relationship is already established since in the ancient era. For example, the mother needs a companion to do some of the house chores. And to help her to finish all the works inside the house, she teaches and encourages her daughter to help her. Sometimes, by simple approach of the daughter to help her mother or otherwise asking her mother to help is a sign that there is a bond between them. But the relationship that was built between them is often tested during the time.  


What Went Wrong?


The mother’s love for her daughter is predicted to be effective if and only if the daughter is aware about her mother’s love and is willing to accept with all her soul. Daughters are the reflection of the mother’s younger version. Meaning, the daughter is the former self of the present mother. This may be the reason why do many people often say that “mothers know best”. Definitely, based on the observation, our mothers have natural characteristics to learn if the people that surround them are good people or not. This thing is called, their natural instinct. Most of the decisions of the mothers are based on their own experience or through their natural gift of instincts. Most conflict or challenges appear in the mother and daughter relationship when the daughter is disobeying her mother just to pursue her own ideas or just to follow what she wants. Most of the mothers view this kind of action as a prodigal or rogue, but no matter how hard the attempt to persuade their daughters, mothers’ care are often taken for granted and the relationship between them becomes weak. Sometimes, the mother is the one who is reckless in making the decisions for the entire family. And this event usually happens when the mother is away, or has a broken family, and so on.


Conclusion


The relationship of the mother and her daughter needs a broad discussion. But the most common thing that is popular in their relationship revolves in their value of their love for each other. Mother’s love in undying, and her legacy in every lives will last forever, no matter how good or bad it will be.


Inspired Source:


Bodenstab, J., 2004. Under Siege: A Mother-Daughter Relationship Survives the Holocaust. [Online] Available at: http://www.yale.edu/gsp/trauma_project/pi240507.pdf. [Accessed 16 Feb 2010].



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